Section 1: Getting to know the girl.
1: What’s your full name. And why?
Stephanie Ashton. I plan to transition and continue my current line of professional work so decided to go for something that says class and elegance. Or put this way… it is an improvement on my previous names. My very first name was Roxy Fielding and ‘r kid from Manchester’ was hardly board material…
2: How long have you been dressing?
27 years in total with short purge breaks here and there.
3: What’s your super-heroine origin story?
In 1979 I was watching Top of the Pops with my older sister and Blondies video for Heart of Glass came on. I remember thinking and saying…”oh she is so beautiful…I hope I look like that when I am older!” There were many aspects of Debbie Harrys behaviour I would go on to adopt, along with other equally formidable women I would encounter in real life.
4: What was the first piece of female clothing you bought, and how scary was it to buy it?
I was raised by wolves and in-between the hunting, fending for our territory and migrating for the winter months I can’t remember when we popped down Markies to buy undies. The factual truth in my case is not that different. When I started in 1992 it was difficult to connect with others and read up about what was happening to me as the internet had not taken off (is that even possible, did time or people even exist before then lol !?)
So instead, I became very good friends with a group of genetic girls who took me shopping, did my makeup, and took me clubbing in and around Manchester. In hindsight, the wolves would have been less vicious but those girls did teach me a lot about being a woman… cough cough.. Was it frightening? Not at all…a section of the sisterhood had already accepted me and in the Northern way, thereafter would have fought to the death if someone so much looked at me the wrong way.
5: Tranny, cross-dresser, t-girl or something else? And why?
For online purposes I tend to opt for tgirl or transwoman. Truthfully, I have no time for labels. We are all unique beautiful souls. I have no doubt that some who meet me think I am superficial, but as an air sign Gemini I never touch the ground so simply don’t care about many things other people get so upset about, including what label they are and what that means. Life is simply too short and my only purpose is to enrich my soul through experience. So call yourself (or me for that matter) what you like and enjoy the endless debates about what it may or may not mean… for me it is just something else I won’t care about.
6: Where do you see yourself in ten years? Fabulous or drab?
Transitioned, living as a woman and married. And by the way, the man who pays for Steffies transition will never want for anything ever again, on this plane of reality or any other.
Section 2: Fashion, fashion, fashion.
7: Dress or separates? And why?
Dresses. Gotta have them all. In my mindset they are ultimate femininity so I love them all.
Ironically being a 16-14-12 going from shoulders down you would think separates would work better but I so often have problems finding tops long enough.
8: Heels or flats? And why?
Heels. Always. They are the height of feminity and I personally love the way they sculpt the foot and leg. Also, men cannot resist looking at any woman in heels. Am I attention seeking? No, just want to make sure a potential good mate doesn’t miss me
Flats do have their place for shopping and commuting but I would rather stay at home than be seen out wearing flats in a nice restaurant or cocktail bar.
9: Studs or hoops? For your ears, of course…. And why?
Hoops. It’s the Northerner in me, sorry.
10: Tights or stockings? And why?
Ohhh! This will expose a Steffie golden rule. I stood with my genetic girlfriends on many nights out in Manchester as they ruthlessly slagged off some poor girl at the bar in a short dress with her stocking tops showing. All genetic women seeing stocking tops on another woman in this situation just think TRAMP. It is important to understand the way the sisterhood really works in that it is outwardly supportive but frankly, most women will claw out another womans eyes if she brings shame on women in general, or comes between her and her pray.
Therefore, as I always aspire to be a woman in all respect I wear tights if there is any risk of stocking tops showing. That way, I am not worrying about embarrassing myself all night long or being slated by cis female peers.
Of course if there is potential of action cough then I would wear a Midi or Maxi dress with hold-ups. Also gives the boy something to fantasise about rather than just seeing your bare flesh straight off…
11: Taffeta or leather? And why?
Taffeta. I love elegance and retro styling and besides, it is so comfy when it is all gathered around you.
Leather… I just don’t think it is sexy at all. It just makes me think of naff female rock bands lol
12: Tight bodycon just down to the mid-thigh, or full circle skirt and a petticoat? And why?
I love both but bodycon to mid-thigh is more practical in modern life.
13: Baby doll nightie or pink satin pyjamas? And why?
Pink Satin PJs of which I have several pairs. I just think I look naff in baby dolls !
Section 3: Gay abandon and naughtiness. Remember you have three ‘bugger off’ cards.
14: A boy, a girl and a t-girl walk into a bar. Who do you make a pass at? And why?
Not the girl. She smiles and is openly supportive but 9 times out of 10 is thinking “not for me thanks.” The caveat being unless she herself is LGBTQ+. I don’t personally go for girls any more but best to avoid full stop unless you have reached level 25 in the sisterhood and have acquired the perk “knowing-when-another-women-is-being-a-false-bitch-to-your-face.” Besides, a straight woman wants a real man, the type that cuts wood and does things in the yard, someone like her Dad. Definitely not a sissy in a frock. I should know…I feel the same
Not the tgirl. I see myself as a straight woman so not interested thanks.
So it is the boy. Seems to be the only one left….oh well….
15: Wine tasting – spit or swallow? And why?
Depends on the vintage darling…some are simply too good to waste…
16: Assuming you don’t mind admirers, a rich one whisks you away and offers you a million ‘whatever currency you use’ to either have extensive facial cosmetic surgery or gender re-assignment. Which would you take, or would you just steal the money and go on a clothing shopping bender?
I would talk him into Boobs and minor face work. Once I have the boobs, use them to talk him into the rest…
Section 4: The scent of perfume, a history truth or fib. Remember you have three ‘bugger-off’ cards, unless you answered none of the naughty ones.
17: When you’ve been dressed, which toilet have you used? If you haven’t, which toilet would you use?
I always use the ladies. Nice to talk to another woman when you are touching up your make-up ;D
18: What’s the most embarrassing moment you can share?
In general terms it is not possible to embarrass me and I just don’t have that gene. For many years I have perceived myself as beautiful and therefore have nothing to be embarrassed about. I have sacrificed a lot to be Steffie and whilst some of those outcomes are sad in one context, it has made me unbelievably self-assured. I have total respect for myself as I am authentic.
19: What’s the most amusing moment you can share?
So many over the years but a fun moment that comes to mind…
I am a life-long LFC fan and have been to a few games as Steffie over the years. Quite a number of years back I was in the Kop end when Heskey missed a sitter against Newcastle and the fella behind shouts “Fookin’ ‘Ell Like! The Fookin’ tranny could have scored from there!” Hillarious. I turned round and said “I know right!” then blew him a kiss. Some might have been mortified by this experience but if you know anything about the Northwest that is actually a sign of acceptance.
20: No guilt, no repercussions – if you could have an intimate night with one celebrity, who would it be and why?
Chris Evans. He can be my Captain for a night
Section 5: Free form femininity.
In less than 100 words, describe your feminine self.
Stephanie is the embodiment of my higher functions, being positive, happy, loving, hopeful, thoughtful, creative and passionate. I like to present myself as an elegant woman at all times and am well mannered, even demure, in behaviour. Once people know me as a friend I hope they think of me as a good listener, caring and helpful. When socialising in a group I am very outgoing and occasionally outrageous. I consider myself a very girlie girl and love all the things any other normal girl does. I am fully converted in my brain…just need my body to follow now.
In less than 100 words, describe your ultimate femm fantasy
When I die and go to see our creator I want an explanation why I am running Pink v4.3 software on a Blue v1.0 platform. I mean come on!? My wiring is totally screwed up and I don’t have any of the right I/O. So why this preamble? Because my ultimate femm fantasy is finding out I’m pregnant to my newly wed husband, the week after I find out my application to be an Air Stewardess has been successful. Naughty Sarah…set me up with this question. Just cos she cant get pregnant either ;D